Freeing your victim

When everything feels like it's on top of you, you can't move and you don't know what you can do to free yourself, you're very likely in victim mode. You have no control of your situation, everyone and everything else is to blame and there's absolutely nothing you can do.

Or is there?

When you're feeling like a victim, you're generally focused on the problems you have, and what happens when you focus on something? 

In my experience, the more you focus on something the bigger it gets. Think of looking through a magnifying glass, binoculars or a telescope.

So if we know that about focus, the logical course must be to focus on the solution, and then surely that will get bigger.

But the snag is that when you're in victim mode you are not at your most resourceful. You are not at your creative best, and not in touch with your intuitive side. You are likely stuck in your head, trying to keep up with those endless problem thoughts, along with doom and gloom scenarios, going round and round.

So you can't see a solution.

But what if you were to forget about trying to find a solution, and ask yourself, "If I had thought of a solution, even though I have no idea what that might be right now, and I had also followed that through and solved the problem, what would that be like?"

Pretty soon you'd have a much rosier picture, perhaps images, thoughts and feelings of relief, excitement and being successful.

You're now in resourceful mode, no longer a victim.

Now's the time to think of potential solutions.

By the way you can do all this on a reasonably short run.

Just saying...