The more I observe the more I notice that frustration, annoyance, dissatisfaction and anger seem to occur when expectations aren't met.
Does this mean that if we had no expectations we'd all be blissfully happy?
While an element of this might be true, it might also mean we'd still be living in a world that looked the same as the 19th century, and we'd probably not be that happy.
Having goals, dreams and inspiring visions of what our future could be like is fundamental to the human spirit and has been the fuel that has driven us to where we are today in terms of progress.
The thought of what could be and how we can change our lives for the better can give us that spring in our step that makes us greet a new day with renewed vigour and expectation.
But then as I said earlier, when we have expectations that aren't met we end up frustrated, dissatisfied and angry.
So what is the answer?
Now I'm not claiming to have this problem solved. I am most definitely a work in progress and frequently experience frustration and the other emotions listed above.
Dreams, visions and even expectations are great, but it's when we have a fixed idea as to how those expectations will be manifested that the trouble starts.
It seems to me that one of the keys to happiness is to keep our dreams and visions in the forefront of our minds, whilst letting go of exactly how they will come about and what format they will arrive in.
When something happens that makes you go, "That's not what I expected", that could actually be a good thing in the long run.
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